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So that happened to me?

Many of us deal with hidden insecurities that carry out things such as shame, rejection and pride. We often wonder why we contend with cycles, not fully understanding the implications of unhealed wounds or even how the devil plays on the intimate, sacred, and pure pieces in us in order to pervert what God has chosen to come out of us and also heal in others! So I want to write to you briefly about the heart and how buried trauma has many implications that we frequently miss in our lives.

Buried trauma creates what I refer to as hollow spaces. Hollow is defined as a whole or depression in something or having a hole or empty space inside. So, what are hollow spaces? Hollow spaces are buried secrets, circumstances, situations, and places we have no desire to look back on. When we create graveyards from trauma in our hearts what we are doing is attempting to bury painful experiences, from painful situations, in an effort to stop the pain. What we don’t realize is the things we bury aren't truly dead and we are simply trying to lock them away in a space where they will eventually resurface again.

Now, these holes in our heart create further conflict and that is what else we will explore today. We must recognize that all trauma is a direct result of a spiritual battle taking place. So how do we identify this and how do we get to a place where we are free? First, we need to acknowledge shame. I can’t tell you how much I despise that pesky spirit of shame. Shame creates a film over life that won't allow

you to properly process what you have experienced in your life. It basically masks you in an illusion. This is where we see fantasy realms and worlds created in our minds and our thoughts. So, while we put on display the pieces of us, we want people to see, we perfect this place that truly isn’t real. It is a false sense of success which is perfection, and this allows you to hide. The first step in breaking through shame is recognizing that yes, this has happened to me, but no I don't have to hide behind it. The second thing you need to do is to identify your triggers. Triggers are mirror reactions to the barriers we have created in our hearts in order to bury the pain. These may manifest as anger, resentment, fear, lust, control, or even pride. These are also spiritual manifestations of a soul tie created with your pain. You never want your soul to be anchored in pain, the past, or in trauma. Matthew 7:18 says a good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit.

Our triggers are our fruit and because they are not coming from a healthy place, rooted in Christ they are bad fruit. We know this to be true because we attempt to cover them up or excuse our behavior by saying things like we're just set in our ways. We also use our age, time and our personality traits to explain away bad fruit, essentially coming into acceptance or agreement with these spirits and drifting further into bondage. So though we experienced trauma in the natural world. That is not where it begins. Trauma is a spiritual battle, and your heart is not just a critical organ physically, but it is an important component of your spiritual life and for the body of Christ as well. We must protect our hearts, and this is done by uprooting trauma and healing from things we have been bound by. With all this said, there is good news, and that is Jesus came to redeem all who choose to receive Him. Again, I want to drive this in trauma, much like everything else we encounter is spiritual and we cannot fight spiritual battles naturally, which is why many of us remain in struggle with these things. Now, counseling, therapy, prayer, and deliverance are all important and necessary things, but the main aspect is to recognize that this is a spiritual matter. Ephesians 6:12 it says for we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. This basic understanding will equip us for things we face daily. You must trust God and his word. His ways are much bigger than ours and he can redeem us from anything that has tried to plague us! We must be aware of how the enemy has strategized against us and trust God to lead us into victory. So how do we do that? We do that by coming out of agreement with things produced from trauma. Remember God loves you; He wants you to be free, and Jesus did not come so you could hold onto trauma or so you could hide from Him.

God wants to have access to all the pieces of your heart and the only way he can do that is by you releasing them to him. Truth be told God already knows what's in your heart and yes, he can remove all those things, but he is waiting on you. Jesus came to set the captives free. So, trust God and release because YOU have big works to do and that can only be done when you are FREE.


Thank You!

Thank you for taking the time to read this blog! These basic principles are things I explore deeper in my book Year of She Arise! If you are wanting to go deeper in shame, hollow spaces, the heart, and triggers be sure to check out the chapters Hollow Spaces and Where is the Lie in Year of She Arise!

Also, if you are looking to gain spiritual principles on how to combat the enemy be sure to check out my eBook. The Combatives of Spiritual Warfare: Contending for your faith when you are face to face with your adversary.

Lastly, if you enjoy this content check out the Year of She Podcast available on all podcast platforms!

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I am a life transition coach. In short, I assist women who have endured sexual trauma in any capacity through various stages of their journey to healing. In addition to being a coach, I am a speaker, author, minister of the gospel, and the founder of a Transpire Integrative Health Services a wellness consulting firm that specializes in transitions and trauma. I have walked the dark side of sexual trauma and know firsthand what it can do to you spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. My life, albeit many challenges serve as a beacon of hope for all women who have faced the horrific effects of sexual abuse. Many of you have shied away from the freedom owed to you because you don’t feel safe, you want to protect your family, or you simply don’t believe you can have another life. I fully understand the implications of trauma, what it can do to you, how it can impact those around you, and what happens when left unhealed. It is my mission to bring as many women to this realization as I can.

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